This isn’t so much about being considerate to your partner, and more about basic hygiene: it’s pretty crucial to go to the bathroom before and after sex, regardless of your gender. Peeing before and after sex gets rid of any bacteria that can get inside the penis or vagina during sex, which can lead to urinary tract infections.
“This isn’t something we’re typically taught, but it is important,” says sex educator and coach Alicia Sinclair. She also recommends cleaning yourself with alcohol-free baby wipes. “Be delicate. Maybe give each other a soft massage afterwards,” she says.